I recently read an article that was about sex, and incest, and one thing struck me as quite odd. The fact that when it comes to consensual adult incest, mother-son was the least common. Father daughter is the most common, followed by brother-sister, uncle-niece, cousins, etc…
This doesn’t make sense to me, considering that women hit their sexual peak around 36, and this continues well into their 40s. At the same time, it’s not hard to understand that a strong breeze can make an 18-year-old’s dick hard. So, I had put this down to it being the mothers who simply wouldn’t go there. But this didn’t line up with some of the comments after stories, where many commenters turn out to be women, who admit to having fantasies about their sons.
So is it the sons who simply don’t want this? I’m not so sure. I suspect that it is more likely that there are many instances where both want it, but are too afraid to be the one to take the lead, in order to make it happen. I suspect that both are too cautious, and at the same time, I suspect that this caution causes them to say and do the wrong things…things that do not help push things forward, and instead, make things stall, or go in reverse.
For instance, a son makes a comment about how good his mom looks, and she then says something to the effect that he shouldn’t be saying things like that. She’s ecstatic inside that he said this, but she just insured that he won’t make anymore comments, anytime soon. Her first instinct was to play the mother role, because she is nervous. But what she needed to do, is show him that she approves of him making such comments. I will talk more about this later.
I remember one story, where the author is/claims to be a mother who wants this to happen, but can’t, or won’t take the chance, so writing a story helped her deal with her frustrated attraction. This got me to thinking about the many stories I have read about mother-son incest, and I feel I have a pretty good idea as to which things would push things forward, and which won’t. So, I thought I would write something, directed to the frustrated mothers, who want this to happen, but don’t know how.
First, let me start by saying this…if you are a mother, who wants to have sex with her son, the likelihood of it happening, without you doing a lot to help make it happen, are slim to none. The reality is this…your son could be laying in bed every single night, thinking about having sex with you while he masturbates, but he is very unlikely to try to make that happen. Not without some very clear signals from you that you also want it to happen, especially if he also loves and adores you. He will be extremely afraid of ruining a good relationship, which I suspect is also the same case with you.
You don’t want to mess up a great relationship with your son. So let me also say, that the mother is more likely to also be afraid that even if she is successful, it will ruin her relationship with her son. This is because she doesn’t understand men, and also doesn’t understand her son as much as she thinks she does. If she already has a great relationship with her son, this isn’t going to cause him to lose respect for her, at all, and won’t diminish his love for her, at all.
At worst, his level of respect for her, will remain the same, and his level of love for her is all but guaranteed to increase…a lot. He will still love her like a son loves his mother, and this will increase some, but you also add in an additional love…the love a man has for a woman. He won’t see the difference in his mind…he will just know that he feels more love for her.
I assume that if you are still reading, you like the idea of making it happen with your son. So let’s start. First question that needs to be answered is, does he have any sexual interest? Well, the bad news…men are visual, when it comes to sex. The good news is this…men aren’t nearly as picky about looks as women are. If you have a question about this…there is a graphic out there somewhere, that shows how in the age of sexual liberation, women are much pickier, always shooting very high.
Women seek out, and find sex with men who are much higher on the sexual attraction ladder. They are successful because men are far more willing to sleep with women who aren’t at his level. In short, women sleep up, and men sleep down. But, men do not sleep with women they find to be unattractive to them, so women cannot shoot too high.
This is good news for you. You may have a son who attracts very good-looking girls, but that does not mean he would not be very interested in sex with you. Men like variety. You may be on his wish list, and not even know it. Or, he may not have even considered you, but that’s not to say he won’t, with a little bit of strategy from you.
First, how to find out if he is interested. Well, you could feign ignorance as to what MILF stands for, and try to find out if his friends have ever called you one, or even say that you overheard somebody refer to you as a MILF, and you want to know what it means.
What’s fun is that you can use this to your advantage, both ways. If he says they do think you are a MILF, you actually have a very good chance of getting your son into your bed. Not because his friends think so, or because he cares what they think…but because you evidently are a MILF, and this has likely not gone unnoticed by your son, especially if his friends have made it clear to him that they see you as such. It likely put it in his mind to take a second look, and see the truth…that you are.
Now, for the next part, let’s assume that you honestly believe that he won’t be the least bit interested in you, visually. Well, if that is the case, you have to decide what making this happen, is worth to you. You have many options…like, joining a gym. Update your wardrobe to be less motherly, and more sexy. Grow your hair out some, and stop using a lot of chemicals, so it doesn’t look fried. Use less make-up, and invest in top of the line skin care. Maybe see about getting some minor procedures done, such as a chemical peal, or other small nips and tucks. I don’t think you would need anything major. Many of you won’t need anything.
Understand that you are likely going to be harder on your looks, than he will, so don’t get carried away with this. But, when you are about ready to start actively trying to get him in your bed, get a make-over. In fact, try to downplay your looks until that point. We want him to see you, and think, WOW, in his mind. So, as you are laying the foundation, dress down, and don’t do much with your looks. Keep your hair in a ponytail, as much as possible. Don’t let him see it down, in a sexy style. Become somewhat invisible to him. This is while you are working out at the gym, to get in reasonable shape.
Remember, you aren’t in competition with anybody but yourself. You don’t have to match anybody…just improve yourself enough that he takes notice, and sees that you look better than you did. Baggy sweats, jeans, T shirts, etc.. Keep the changes hidden as much as you can. Light make-up is OK, but don’t try to make your face look sexy. No make-up, along with using high quality skin care products is better, as this will make your skill look better. Make-up enhances good skin, better than bad skin.
Once you have gotten in reasonable shape, and are ready to proceed, you will want to get a sexy dress for a date with your son. What I would do, is take a weekend trip to a nearby big city, or go to another side of town, if you already live in one. Go to the mall, and go to the food court. Look for a group of young men, about the age of your son. Sit by them. And make some small talk. Breaking the ice with them isn’t hard…they are very likely to be more socially awkward than you are.
Ask them if they think the local college team is going to do well this year. Or, ask if they have seen a specific movie…for instance a new Spiderman movie…something in the theater. Tell them you were thinking of seeing it, but want some opinions. You are just trying to engage them in some small talk, to gauge how open to you they are. Do they become attentive, or do they seem to not really want to talk to you. I should note that you will put effort into your appearance when you go to do this, but that should be obvious.
So…what is this all about? Well, you are going to ask a favor from them, and if necessary, bribe them…maybe some movie tickets, or a meal. Maybe some sex…or a hint of sex…if they flirt with you? But what is the favor? Well, you get to be honest with them…just a little bit.
You will say something like this, “I need a favor from you guys, if you don’t mind, and I will make it worth your while. I have a date coming up, with a man about your age, and so I need some fashion advice. I don’t want to look slutty, but I want to look very sexy, and classy at the same time. Like a little black dress. But, I might pick the wrong dress. I don’t know what younger men like you, would consider sexy. So, what I would like to do, is go to one of the stores here, and have you help me find the right dress. You would be doing me a really big favor, if you help me find something that actually looks good on me.”
(Side note: be open to accepting a phone number. One or more of them might offer to take you on a date, “if it doesn’t work out with the other guy.”)
You want to make a big impression on your son. You want his jaw to drop, when he sees you in the dress. My recommendation is to think…little black dress…but it doesn’t have to be black. If you have nice legs, go for a shorter hemline.
In the area between the bottom of your ass, to the top of your knees, you want the hemline to be above the midpoint. If you have nice cleavage, make it work for you. If you have silky smooth skin on your back, show it off.
If the first group of guys don’t help you, don’t be discouraged. Keep trying. Give yourself about 3 months to make this happen. You WILL find a group that will help you. I doubt it would take more than 4 weekends to find a group willing to help you, if that long. Keep in mind that they may have plans, so when you ask, put it out there that you would be open to them helping you that day, or sometime in the near future. If they offer a phone number, you know they will help you.
The reason you want a group is because they are less likely to feel weird about it. Ask a single guy, and he might be nervous about doing that, but a group will likely not feel weird about doing it. Plus, it gives you more input. You will be looking for a dress that they all pretty much agree, really looks good on you.
Finally, you will likely end up with the one dress that looks the sexiest on you. That’s what you want. Sure, you can probably find a good dress, but this is more of a guarantee that the dress you are wearing, will have the most impact.
One note of caution…use your intuition to figure out if the guys are messing with you, or trying to sabotage your date, so they can have a chance with you. It should be obvious to you if they are trying to get you to not buy the best dress. If you suspect that, call them on it. Be playful. “Are you trying to get me to buy the wrong dress, to sabotage my date, so you can take me on a date?” And smile when you say it.
Tell them that it’s a bad strategy, because you would buy dresses that they don’t like, and not look good for them.
And again, keep in mind that this might be an opportunity for you to have some fun. Be open to letting one, or all of them, take you to a motel for the evening.
So…now…you have been working out, and you feel good. You have your dress. Now, it is time to get the make-over.
On the day of your date, get that make-over.
Make sure that you are honest with the person doing your hair and make-up. You tell them that you are going out on a date with a man young enough to be your son, so you need styles that will appeal to a man that age. Do not let them sell you on an overly short hairstyle, or an up-do. Though, a wedding style up-do might work, because women tend to look beautiful in those hairstyles. They tend to have hair that is also down, alongside the face, which has a fairy-tale quality to it.
A quick look at Playboy, will show you that the majority of the models have hair well past their shoulders. Not a bad idea if you are trying to attract your son. Unless that is, he has made it clear to you that he very much prefers short hair, or a specific shorter style. Whatever you think will make his heart skip a beat, when he sees you, that’s what you do.
Does he have a specific perfume he likes? I myself, always found POISON to be intoxicating. I am not even sure if you can still buy it, but if you can, I am not sure you can do better than that, but then, POISON is my favorite, so I am biased. Wear what he likes.
Get your make-up done for a night out at the clubs.
As for the date, you are looking to do the typical movie, dinner, and dancing. The movie will give you a chance to cuddle up to him at the theater. Choose one that allows the armrests to be pushed up and out of the way. If he gets free with his hands, let him. It’s OK to stop his hand, and keep yours on it for a couple of minutes, but don’t force a retreat, and let go of it, after a while, so he can proceed.
If he is just caressing around your neck, shoulders, etc…purr…and tell him that you love the way he touches, and wish he would touch you more often.
If Dad is still in the picture, it is more than OK to indicate that this is something private between the two of you. Simply say that Dad isn’t much for touching, but you need it, so you could say to him that when Dad is around, you both need behave, but when Dad’s not home, you give him your permission to do a lot more touching.
This is something you can use to push things forward, without having to put yourself out there too much. You can put just a tiny hint of innuendo in your request, by emphasizing the words, A LOT, when you tell him you want him to touch you a lot more. He may flirt with you, and ask about where he is allowed to touch, or not touch. This is your opening. He wouldn’t ask this, even in a flirting, or joking way, if it hadn’t entered his mind that he wants to touch you in those areas.
If this happens, you smile at him in a flirty way, and say something like, “Wellllll, it has to be fun for you too, if I am to receive as much touching as I crave, so you can push the boundaries a little, if you want to. Touch where you want. I will let you know if you push to far. I won’t get mad if you do.” And when he does push the boundaries, let him. This is what you wanted, right?
But, if you do feel the need to slow it down a little…remember not to admonish. Put your hand on his, and smile really big at him, and after a bit, take your hand away. You stop his hands, but you do not force a retreat, and don’t continue to stop him for too long. One night, maybe, and then let him get further the next time.
OK, so now to the date, and yes, make sure you call it a date. When you make your entrance, he is likely to be stunned, and hopefully will say something about how good you look. It’s OK to act as if you don’t believe him…he’s just saying this to make you feel good, right? He doesn’t actually think you look sexy, right?
If he insists, he means it, and so, this is what I would do, if I were you. Tear up just a little, and thank him. Maybe even plant a kiss on his lips. Tell him that was a reward. Tell him that it feels good to have somebody tell you that you are hot, or sexy, and what he said to you means the world to you. Play it up…encourage him to be your knight in shining armor. Sons want to be that for their mother.
Tell him you needed to hear that more than you realized…and that your ego has been deflated too much. Give him specific permission to tell you how sexy you are, but only if he really means it. And then…we have seen it in many of these stories where the mom and son go on a date…and they agree for it to be an actual date…they aren’t mother and son on the date.
Maybe say, “It meant the world to me to hear you say that you think I am sexy. My confidence needs that boost. I need to hear more of that. If you would be OK with it, I would like for us to go on a real date. For the rest of the night, we are just two people on a date, not mother and son. Is that OK with you, or would being on a date with your old mom, feel weird to you?”
He will likely be very OK with this arrangement. Be prepared for him asking for a kiss at the end of the date. It’s possible he may be up for more than that. Be open to it. Maybe even have a movie ready to go, so you can both cuddle while watching it. Have “something more comfortable,” ready to go. Something somewhat sexy, with thin material to allow your nipples to be easily seen, and soft or silky, that will make it easy for him to touch and caress…and even get to your goodies, if he is that bold, or turned on.
If he gets free with his hand, let him. You can look at him when he does it, but flash a really big smile. Be positive. If he questions whether you have a problem with it, tell him, “No, I love having you hands on my body, and love the way you touch me…it feels really good.”
So this gets you through the first date. If you are a single mom, or if it’s just you and your son living together, or if you live alone, and he lives nearby, this should all be much easier. If the first date was enough to get him to take you to bed that night, you are done. No need to go further. You got what you set out to get.
But, if he was a perfect gentleman, or he did push some boundaries, but it didn’t end up in your bed that night, you now must continue what you are doing.
First, we need to get his hands on your skin, and your hands on his skin, as much as possible. Look for articles that talk about hugs and physical touch being necessary for good mental health. They are out there. Show them to him, and tell him how much you love hugging with him, and cuddling on the couch, to watch movies. If you’ve never done that, suggest it. And again, give him permission to touch you more.
If he asks how much more, say, “If I am within reach, touch me.”
Then, I want you to find the website for The 5 Love Languages. You want for both of you to take the quiz for couples. You do it beforehand, and then you have him do the quiz right in front of you. When you do it, you are not necessarily going to be honest. The quiz pits all 5 love languages against each other. So each one is pitted against each of the other four languages, 3 times. So if you max one out, it will get a 12.
Do not let him see your results until he has taken the quiz. You don’t necessarily want him to try to copy your results. You want to know what makes him feel loved, so you can do it.
It is not important to match…it is important that he know what he needs to do to make you feel loved, and you need to know what makes him feel loved. We weren’t necessarily honest with yours, because the intent is for him to think that, to make you feel happy, and loved, he has to touch you a lot more, and tell you how sexy you are.
It gives you a cover for requesting that he not hide his looks of lust, and tell you that you are sexy…a hotty. It also gives him permission to do so. He now has a valid reason to do so. He loves his mom, and she needs this from him.
Anything that gets votes significantly higher than the others, will be listed as a primary, or secondary love language. You want to max out physical touch with a score of 12. And then, for words of affirmation, you want that to have a score of 9. You will always choose that, except for when it is pitted against physical touch. Once you have those results…it comes to your email, instantly…you then want to take a laptop and sit down beside your son, and have him do the test.
Only use the test for couples…not the one for singles. The one for singles seems weird, and gives weird results.
Anyway, give your son this instruction. “If the choice is obvious…choose it. If you look at both answers, and are not sure…think of it being that the one you choose, you get for life, but the one you do not choose, you will never get again…ever. This helps you understand when one is more important to you.” You will use his results to connect better with him.
Hopefully physical touch is high on his list, but whether it is, or is not, you will use the results for yours, to get him to touch you more, and be more vocal about how sexy you are.
You will show him yours, and then say something about how you now understand why it means so much to you, for him to tell you that you are sexy, or hot. And also, the results tell you both why you need him to touch you…a lot more. Maybe say, “Now I know why it’s so important to me that you tell me that I’m sexy, and why it’s so important that you touch me as much as you can.”
You want him to understand that he is helping you by touching you every chance he gets. If he is within arm’s reach, you want his hands on you. He needs to know that he should hug you constantly, and touch and caress you every chance he gets.
If he asks if there is any area he isn’t allowed to touch, tell him no…that so long as he is touching you, you are OK with it. Trust this…if he asked, he is simply ensuring that he is allowed to touch you where he wants to. It’s already in his mind that he wants to touch you in intimate places…your breasts, your ass, and maybe even your pussy. He should also be encouraged to kiss your neck.
Giving each other massages can also be a way to get your hands on each other. No table…use the floor, or a bed. Get naked for the massage, and use a towel, or linen sheet for modesty…to not be too obvious. Suntan lotion, or other skin care lotions, on your back, butt, and thighs, can also be an excuse to get his hands on you.
Next, you want him in bed with you, as much as possible. Small weekend trips, to places where you would need to get a motel/hotel room, works. Look for places that only have one bed. Even if it has two beds, encourage him to share a bed. Tell him it’s an excuse to touch, and cuddle, and you don’t like to sleep alone. Who knows, he might even suggest that if this is true, he would be up for sharing your bed with you, at home.
If he ever gets hard, and you feel it, acknowledge that you feel it, but if he tries to pull away, don’t let him. Smile, and tell him that it’s a bonus for you, because it’s the same as if he is telling you how sexy you are…and…very believable…it reinforces that he’s not just telling you that you are sexy, to make you feel better.
When you sleep in the same bed with him, he might take the liberty of touching you more intimately, while you sleep. Wear things that encourage this, and make it easier for him to touch anything he wants. Never stop him from touching you in any manner, even if he puts a finger inside you.
If you want to, you can fake that you just woke up and caught him, but encourage him to not stop. Tell him that it feels good. You want him laying down with you, with minimal clothes on, as much as possible. Cuddling on the couch at home is something you can do daily.
Hotel/motel rooms, and camping are another way to get into bed together. Never wear bras, or panties. Soft, silky things that allow easy access to your body, are encouraged. If it is semi-see through, that’s even better.
Tickle fights are encouraged. Especially if you have no bra on.
Anything that gets his hands on you, is good. Maybe get your legs waxed, and tell him to feel how smooth is makes your legs feel. He might flirt, and tell you that should have gotten something else waxed. You would then look at him with a sexy look, and whisper, “I did.” I’m sure his eyes will get big, and if he’s bold, he will tease that you should let him feel that too. Whisper to him that he can do so.
Now, along with getting his hands on you, we want his eyes on you.
So at the same time that you do the things above, you will update your wardrobe, but now your son will be the one who judges the clothes. You want him to decide if you look sexy in different shorts, skirts, jeans, dress slacks, dresses, etc… The main benefit is that you will end up with clothes that he finds sexy on you.
So then, after he has done this a few times, you want to recreate a story that was in Literotica, where a mother had to seduce her son in one day, and succeeded.
One of the things she did, was to do a fashion show for him. She wore 3 bikinis, and he was to tell her if it was sexy enough. One was not super skimpy, but the material was thin, and one solid, light color, which showed off her nipples very well. The second was very skimpy, and the last one was a slingshot bikini.
You do this at home. Have him sit on the couch, while you model your existing bikinis for him. All of your bathing suits. Most modest, to the sexiest.
Let me amend that. If you have 500 bikinis, it is best not to model all of them. I don’t know that there is a perfect number to model, but you don’t want it to go on so long that he get bored.
For this first time, keep it to bikinis he has seen before. If you have any really skimpy bikinis that look new, and that he doesn’t know about, don’t model it for him. That will be a “new purchase” that you model for him later.
Afterwards, you tell him that it is clear by his reactions, that you need to get some sexier bikinis, and that when you get them, you will do another fashion show for him. This time, you will have a selection of very skimpy and sexy bikinis.
Buy one of those 3 panel room dividers, and change behind that. It will have a fun affect on his mind. He will know you are getting naked behind that blind, and that will get him thinking about you…naked. There is a sexy, naked woman in the same room with him! He might get hard just from that alone.
String bikinis that tie on the sides, for the bottoms, are good because he may get bold, and untie them. Same for one that ties between the boobs. If he does, don’t re-tie it. Simply tease him about being naughty, and trying to get you naked. Depending on how he has been responding, you might ask him if that’s what he wants. If he says yes, tell him to finish untying the one you are wearing.
Also, when he is judging the bikinis, tell him that the one he thinks is the sexiest, you will wear around the house for him…whenever he wants. I would also suggest one of those slingshot bikinis. It’s a good bet that he will choose this one. You will almost feel naked, but that should turn both of you on.
He might tease, and say something like, “You might as well be naked.” Smile at him, and ask, “Oh, is that what you want?” He might say yes…something like, “I wouldn’t complain if you were.” So this is where you would be bold, and take the suit off, but tell him that if you are going to do this, he needs to always tell you how sexy he thinks you are.
After bikinis, you can take him to a lingerie store, and repeat this process. Allow him to help pick things for you to try on. If you are lucky, this store will have dressing rooms that he can go in with you. That should be fun, right?
Browsing catalogues together, can substitute going to the store, and then you order some things he liked, and model them for him.
If he ever gets hard, don’t be afraid to look at it, and smile. The things he is doing for you, you should do in return, as much as possible. Touch him as much as you can…if he seems to enjoy it. If he ever kisses you, let him, and slowly start kissing him back.
The point here, is that even when it shocks you, or scares you, or takes you by surprise, you never ever give him the idea that you hate what he says, or does. You want him to always feel encouraged to proceed forward.
Just one time of admonishing him for his lust for you, will set things way back. He will retreat, and it will take even more encouragement by you, in the future, to get back to that level.
When you are in a hotel/motel, or even at home for a movie night, you can always suggest a porn movie…but do so while laughing, as if it is just a joke. He may say that it would be weird, but he may also say that he’s up for it, if you are. You can act surprised, but then say OK.
If he asks what kind, the obvious choice would be something with an older woman, and younger man.
While watching, you could ask if he has ever wanted to have sex with an older woman…like you. Hopefully, he will respond with something like, “I would love to have sex with an older woman…just like you.” Respond with something encouraging, such as, “Well, when you find the one you want to have sex with, I’m very sure she won’t tell you no.
If you have the feeling that he very much wants to have sex with you, follow up with, “I know I wouldn’t tell a guy as hot and sexy as you, no.”
At some point, you may need to be courageous, and be honest with him. He may want this to happen, but need you to literally say that you want him to make love to you. He may come right out and ask if you keep flirting with him because you want him to make love to you.
Judge him. Does he look hopeful that you want that? Does he look like he is grossed out by the thought? Ask if you need to. I seriously doubt he will, if he has been flirting, and going along with the touching, and telling you that you are sexy. He is likely just too afraid to make the final leap on his own.
Don’t be too upset…this is just the way he is…and he likely cares so much for you, that he just doesn’t want to make a move, until you literally give him the green light to do so. He wants it, he’s just not sure if you really do. He may be having a hard time believing that you want to go all the way, and he doesn’t want to mess up the good thing he has going with you.
Remember, you are trying to get him to look at you, and express that you are sexy. You are trying to get him to touch you as much as possible, and give him plenty of opportunities to touch you intimately. You want him to hug you as much as possible. You want him to sleep with you, and cuddle with you, as much as possible.
You want to kiss him…on the lips. Start with firm pecks, and elevate from there, if he doesn’t seem too put off by them. Encourage him to kiss your neck, if he is ever in a position to do so, such as hugging you from behind, while you cook, or do dishes…or when cuddling. Tell him it feels really good.
Never ever ever discourage him. Even if he does something you weren’t expecting him to do. For instance, you are cuddling on the couch, and he quickly exposes one of your breasts, and starts sucking on the nipple, or he puts a finger into you…and you weren’t expecting him to be this bold…just go with it.
This is, after all, what you wanted.
You may think that you must pretend to not want it. No. Never give him an excuse to retreat. You do not want to get him to take a step forward, and then take 500 steps back, and that is what happens if you give him the slightest indication that you are not OK with his advances.
What we are doing here, is creating plenty of opportunity for him to make a move.
We are doing so in a way that makes leaves you room to backtrack if he were to make it clear that it is all really weirding him out.
If that happens, you can just say, “I understand son. I was being selfish. I was only thinking about my own emotions, confidence, and ego…it just felt so good to let you stroke my ego, but I don’t want you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.”
Who knows, he might come back after a week or two, or even the next day, and apologize, and say that he does enjoy it, but just felt guilty for liking it. Either way, you have the ability to say, if necessary, that you were never expecting it to go too far…you just got caught up in how good he was making you feel. But, you can then also add that while you never expected it to go as far as it did, you don’t regret that it did.
Boost his ego up. Tell him that with anybody else, you might have regrets, but you love him so much, and he is so special to you, that you can never regret anything that makes you two closer to each other.
If he is responding well, and smiling…you can even boost his ego way off the charts. You can literally tell him that he is so good at seducing women, that he was even able to get you to the point that you can’t resist him…can’t tell him no. He opened a door, and you can’t close it.
Do you know what makes a man want to be with a woman? Two things. He likes what he sees…AND…more importantly…she makes him feel good about himself, when he’s around her.
So do that for your son.
Also, sons care about their moms, and want to take care of their moms. If she is hurting, they want to take care of her. This is what we are doing…making him feel like his touching, and telling you how sexy you are, is helping you, because you are depressed…don’t believe you are sexy anymore.
But you must be careful not to discourage him. If he takes little steps, or big steps forward, to see if you will let him get away with it, it is very important that you give every indication that it is more than OK for him to take that step forward. That is what he is looking for. This is allowing you both to escape the rut you are in, where nobody is willing to take any steps towards making it happen.
Now what do you do, if you mess up…you panic, and admonish him for taking a step forward?
Let’s say, you are on the couch, cuddling, and he is touching and caressing, but then he takes a breast in his hand, or puts his hand between your legs? But you panic, and stop him. He retreats to his room, and you are left feeling confused.
You know you messed up. You regret that you panicked, or forgot not to give him the impression that you are not OK with what he did.
OK, after a short time, gather your courage, and go to his room. Maybe put on something even sexier than you are already wearing. Or, just wear a silky robe into his room. Go to his room, and get him to let you in.
Go up to his bed, and pull back the covers. Drop the robe, and get into his bed with nothing on. Cuddle up to him, and apologize for earlier. Take his hand and guide it to where he had it when you panicked.
Admit that he took you by surprise, but state that you want him to touch you. Give him permission. He has already shown you that he wants you sexually. So, take it all the way. Let him touch, and encourage him to keep going, until he has made love to you.
I am willing to bet that the biggest reason that mother-son is the least common incest, is because the mother thinks she must put up resistance, when the son makes any steps forward, such as telling his mom how sexy she looks. A typical response is likely to be something like, “you shouldn’t be looking at me like that, I’m your mother.”
You must understand, it is likely that if he was saying this to test the waters, it took a lot of courage to say that. He likely had to work up to it. So when you shut him down, he isn’t likely to take that step forward again, anytime soon, if ever.
If he makes a step forward, you must make it very clear to him that you very much approve. If he is not taking those steps forward, you must prime the pump. Create a situation where he will take a step forward. I’ve shown ways where you can do this.
My belief is that if you create a friendly playground for your son to play with you, he will play with you. Just keep encouraging him to play at his own pace. Always approve of each step he takes forward.
I simply don’t think that a mother can play hard to get, if she wants this to happen. I honestly believe that a son will only pursue her if he is getting feedback that his advances are welcome, and encouraged.
Here are some specific examples that I can think of, where a son might either be testing the waters. Or he simply gets caught lusting after his mom, and she makes the mistake of admonishing him, which causes him to never venture down that road again?
1. He gets caught ogling her cleavage, breasts, ass, etc., and she says something like, “eyes up here, young man.” Or simply says something about it being inappropriate for him to look at her like that.
Any negative reaction is bad. So how do you handle it? Flirt.
When he sees that you caught him, make sure he sees you with a happy smirk on your face, or biting your lip while doing a cute, shy smile. When he gets flustered, and apologizes, stop him from going further down that road. Simply tell him that it’s OK, that you don’t mind. You can add in that you are just surprised that such a young hot guy would want to look at you like that…but then reiterate that you don’t mind him looking at you like that…and add that it boosts your confidence.
So he should feel free to look, and even compliment you on how sexy you look. Once again, this allows you a safe exit, if he claims that it is getting too weird for him.
But don’t pull the rip cord right away. If he does that, just let him see that it makes you sad. Give it a little time. He might simply be testing you, to see if you are just toying with him. Use your intuition, and let it stew a little bit.
Does he become a hermit for a day or three, and then go back to ogling you? If he does, just let him, and let him see that you caught him, and again, just offer a little smile, to let him know you don’t think he’s a creep for doing so.
Whatever you do…don’t shut it down. Just let it always be assumed that you are just being a woman…and women love to be looked at…so long as it is not a guy she finds to be creepy.
Let him keep making little steps forward, and never ever admonish him for doing so. Soft encouragement is the only thing you ever do. Compliment him for looking at you, with the added twist that it boosts your sagging confidence…strokes your ego. Makes you feel happy to be seen as sexy and beautiful…not just beautiful… but sexy too.
2. You are cuddling on the couch, watching movies, and he gets hard. Don’t act shocked, and certainly don’t say, or do anything, to make him feel guilty about it. Again, you smile happily at him, and wiggle your butt, to acknowledge that you feel it. He will likely try to pull back, and apologize. Don’t let him. Once again, he needs to know you are OK with it, and it makes you feel confident that he would find you so sexy.
Again, you can fish for some compliments, and bring out his knight in shining armor, by stating that you would have never guessed that you could cause such a reaction in such a hot young guy. He will likely take the bait, and assure you that you are not old, and not unattractive.
You can even start off making it a discussion. Ask, “did I cause that?” He may react to that question in a variety of ways. Remember, you want to encourage him to keep doing it by making it all about your ego/confidence. You are flattered. And, always remember that no matter what he says, he did get hard because of you, and it is a definite sign that he is sexually attracted to you. He simply needs to be encouraged to keep doing this.
3. Now what if he makes a bold move, such as walking up behind you in the kitchen, or at you bathroom vanity, and hugs you from behind, with an obvious hard on? He will know what he is doing, and be judging your reaction. And…once again, you have to resist your natural instinct to act shocked, or to be the good mom. Do not admonish him for doing this. Flirt. Make sure he knows you feel it, but also that you are OK with it.
Same thing, if he should reach up and take your breasts into his hands. Lean back into him, and show approval on your face…maybe softly biting your lip, or moaning in pleasure.
4. What if he simply looks at you at some point, and gets cocky, and makes a very sexually suggestive remark, or cocky and blatant proposition. Well, that depends on you. Do you prefer the overly cocky approach, or would you rather he be more romantic in his approach? If you like the approach, you win…you got what you wanted, so all you need to do is accept his advances.
However, if you would prefer he be more sweet, and romantic, then let him know this. You still want to smile, and be seductive. Just smile, and say that he can have what he wants, but that you respond better to a softer, sweeter, more romantic approach. Then get right up to him, and put a soft his on his lips. Then ask him if he would like to take you out on a date.
While on the date, if he is acting sweeter, and more romantic, show him that his new approach is working. Tell him that if he is trying to romance you out of your panties, it’s working.
5. You discover a porn collection, electronic or otherwise, and notice he has a preoccupation with older women. Don’t admonish him. Encourage it, and then say something to the effect that you should be so lucky to have a hot young guy like him, find you to be sexy, and want to take you to bed.
If his mind wasn’t already headed in that direction, it will be now. If it was already, he will be encouraged to go further. One night, while cuddling with him, while he is watching TV, you can ask him about an older actress in the movie. Is he sexually attracted to her? Play along with him on this. Encourage his interest in older women. Ask what he likes about older women.
If he seems to be hiding what his preferred look in an older woman is…assume it is you he’s most interested in, and thus his preference is women who look like you. You can then test this, and while you have him trapped on the couch, look into his eyes and ask if he has ever fantasized about you?
He is likely to act shocked, and deny it, but don’t believe him…just look at him as if you can see right through his deception…and say, ” (gasp) You have!” Then smile really big, and tell him, “I’m very flattered, and totally OK with that.”
And as always, make it about your not feeling as confident about your looks as you would like to be.
If he is bold, and says that he has, you can still gasp, and then say, “You have?”…as a question…like you enjoyed hearing that, but can’t believe it’s true. Again, you show him that you liked hearing that.
Either way, you can use this as a segue into offering to dress sexier for him, if he would like that. Tell him that for a woman, seeing a man look at her with hunger in his eyes, always does wonders for her confidence. You can then push things with little, personal fashion shows, wearing sexy dresses, bikinis, and lingerie.
If he is bold enough to either say that he prefers women that look like you, or you notice that the women he says are his favorite, tend to look like you in some major way, such as they are all blond, and you are blond, or they all have big boobs, and you have big boobs, or their face is similar then point out how they are just like you. At some point, note the similarity, and as above, ask if he has ever fantasized about you, and do the same things as noted above.
6. Now this one might be the scariest of all. What if there has been a lot of flirting, and innuendo, and maybe even some touching and caressing during movie night, etc… Everything seems to be going fine, and he confronts you, out of the blue.
He is the bold type, that confronts things head on. He has gotten the impression that you are flirting with him, and he wants to get everything out in the open. He wants to know what is going on. He wants to know what you expect from all of this. He may even flat out ask if you are trying to get him in bed, but…you can’t tell whether it is what he wants, or if he is spooked, and is calling you out.
If you think he is spooked, or weirded out…Don’t Panic.
You can softly put this back on him in a way that makes him feel responsible, and at the same time, he will feel the need to make a move, or bring an end to it. You tell him that you felt his eyes on you, or in some way you felt that he was attracted to you, and at first, it shocked you. But you love him, so you didn’t want to make an issue out of it, and yes, it felt incredible to be the object of his interest.
After awhile, he broke down your resistance to the idea, and you allowed yourself to really enjoy what you thought was his sexual attraction, and eventually, you totally accepted it, and even became open to the idea of it, and don’t think you would have told him no. You can even add in that it appears that you were sorely mistaken, and it was foolish to think that a young guy as hot as he is, would ever think she’s sexy.
Trust me on this…he loves you, and this will make him feel protective of you, at a minimum.
If he does want to go to bed with you, he will feel emboldened to admit it…so that you don’t have to feel crushed by thinking he didn’t want to. He may even ask if you would still not be able to tell him no. Tell him that you could not resist him if he tried to make love to you…you could not tell him no.
If he doesn’t want to, he will feel it is his fault for leading you on, and want to make it up to you. It will bring the two of you closer, and you can both agree to just go back to how things were…normal. You make him promise that he won’t act weird around you…you feel like you both became closer, and you want that to continue. He will want the same. You’ve lost nothing, and gained a closer relationship with him.
He may even decide later that he has had a change of heart, and does want to make love to you. If you detect that he is trying to feel you out on this…he’s not shit testing you…he’s trying to simply find out if you will let him change his mind, and make love to you.
He may say he wants to talk about that whole thing…and I assure you that if he does this…if he at some point, wants to dredge it all up, it’s because he has decided that he made a mistake, and now wants that sexual relationship with you. If he doesn’t want that, he would never dredge it back up.
He’s not trying to trick you. He’s not trying to make sure you still don’t want to. He’s trying to figure out if you still wouldn’t stop him if he initiated anything. This would require you to be somewhat bold. You put it back on him.
You tell him that it was he who sparked the idea in your mind, the first time…started you down that path…and then you tell him that it terrified, and hurt you when he backed off it. You tell him that he has to decide what he wants.
Tell him that you have found it hard to completely back off of it…you still think that if he initiated anything, you don’t think you would be able to resist him, or tell him no. Fluff up his ego…say this is because you love him too much, and he is just too damned sexy. Trust me on this…most guys, even good looking guys, never hear something like that enough.
It will have a positive effect on him. As will touching and caressing him, a lot, if he has physical touch high on his love languages. If it is his primary, or secondary love language, he is starving for physical affection…I assure you of that. That is, unless he has a girlfriend who won’t keep her hands off him…but even then, he would still likely enjoy being touched by you.
By the way, if you do those quizzes…don’t do the one for singles. Only use the ones for couples. It’s basically the same questions, but for the singles one, they word the questions weirdly. I found it off-putting. Dare I say…they came off as creepy in the singles quiz.
I think a good way to remember all of this is that it isn’t that much different to seducing one of his friends. His friends might be wildly attracted to you, but would possibly need encouragement to make advances on you. And, while a friend who is more bold, might keep trying, if you softly admonish him for making a pass at you…your son likely will not.
If you rebuff your son, even if done softly with the hope that he will persist, it is very likely to make him feel foolish, and make him believe that you have no interest in sex with him, and so any advances he makes, will only end badly. Like it or not, you are going to have to make him feel confident enough to make advances, and keep making them.
While his friends may have at least a small belief that you will respond to flirting, or sexual advances…your son is more likely to believe that you will completely reject his flirting, or advances, and will always expect that with each step forward, you will put up a wall, and shut him down. He fears that, and fears feeling foolish when that happens. You have to keep encouraging him to take steps forward, by never giving the slightest hint that you want him to stop.
The only exception to this is that you can press the pause button, but not the stop button. Like I stated before, you can stop his hands moving, by placing yours on his, but don’t push his hands away, or reposition them. Just keep your hand on his, holding his hand where it’s at, for a while.
I read a story here, that really turned me on, because it seemed very believable. The mother and son went to dinner and a movie…on an actual date, and she wore a very sexy dress that showed off a lot of cleavage. While in the theater, the mother cuddled up to him, and eventually he couldn’t resist making an advance. He started caressing her shoulder, and then kept testing the waters further.
When his fingers grazed over her breast, she had a sharp intake of breath, but didn’t stop him right away. He continued to caress the exposed part of her breast for a few seconds, and then she put her hand on his…not removing it from her breast…just holding it in place, not allowing him to caress. After a while, she let his hand go, and eventually he started caressing again. After a minute, she again put her hand on his, and then she looked at him, and smiling said, “You are being very naughty. Bad boy.”
But she didn’t stop him…she was smiling…and she said it with a happy voice, not a mad, or stern voice.
Again, she let his hand go, and again, he got bold and started caressing, and then ventured under the edge of top of the dress…just a little bit. She let it go, and he became a bit more bold, going further under the cloth. Then she put her hand on his again, not removing his hand…just stopping forward progress. When her grip loosened, he pushed further, capturing her nipple.
This whole story really turned me on, because I put myself in the place of her son, and thought that yeah, if I were him, I would not stop either. I would be wildly turned on during the whole thing, and ravish her when we got home. The mother was, at the same time, stopping his progress, while sending clear signals that he should continue to proceed forward.
If it were you, and he does not become bold, once at home…get him to watch TV with you. get back in the same position, with his arm around you, with you wearing something that is a clear invitation for him to put his hand on your breast, again. Something that makes it easier than the dress did. Don’t wear a T-shirt. wear something that allows him to caress the tops of your breasts again, and then slide his hand underneath.
If he is feeling your breasts, he wants to make love to you. So, when his fingers get to the point he is about to go under the cloth, be bold, and pull the cloth away to make plenty of room for his hand. You’ve won. He will be in your bed, and in you before sunrise.
It should not have to be said, but I will anyway…only do this with those of legal age to consent.
Good luck, and happy hunting.